BECOMING A GRANDPARENT

After the seemingly never-ending years of diapers, disciplining, teaching, counseling, handing over car keys, and planning weddings for three daughters, suddenly Roger and I were thrust into a new and unfamiliar  role as grandparents.  In a quandary over our competency,we wondered, Are we ready to step into this role and fill the shoes of grandparents?

A new world was opening before us.  As young and inexperienced grandparents, we could not help but wonder, Where do we begin?  How do we nurture a meaningful and personal relationship with a grandchild?

Roger's and I had little experience with our own grandparents but we were motivated to do this grandparenting thing well.  Roger's grandparents were completely absent.  I had four grandparents, but only one that I really liked, my "Ginnah", short for grand mother. She was involved in my life.  She baby sat, read me books, played games with me. I felt she really liked me.  I wanted to be more like my "Ginnah" to our grandchildren.  I could start there.

Like Roger, our own three daughters unfortunately did not experienced much grandparent involvement  either.  His parents lived in Florida and mine in New England.  Our girls only saw them when we made the effort to visit them. In the 1960's there wasn't much for communication like the cell phone. email, or face time. Today it is different with our great grand children.

No one can grandparent your grandchild better than you.  God designed you exactly for your family. Your grandchildren need to know you and to be accepted for who they are.  Parents do a great job, but grandparents reinforce their love.

Becoming a grandparent has been a most rewarding experience in our marriage.  It has been amazing how much we are still learning from them.  You don't want to miss it.  You can be a wonderful grandparent, too. God has created you for this role.

GRANDPARENTs DO HAVE A ROLE TO PLAY

In today's culture, parenting is an exceptionally challenging job for  young couples.What a blessing it can be for them when grandparents--whether living nearby or far away--are involved in their lives and their children's.  We cannot deny that our role as grandparents often stretches us beyond our capability. We can also testify heartily that building relationships with grandchildren can be a genuine gift from heaven.

The special relationship between a grandparent and a grandchild is entirely different from the bond that exists between a parent and a child.  Grandparenting, in comparison to the role of parenting, is a grand time of life.

As grandparents, we can bring  a deep sense of stability and security in the home. It is meaningful for grandchildren to know that they are loved and accepted by others in addition to their parents.  When we profess a faith that is real and personal, our influence on young lives is even more powerful.  The perceptive little eyes of our grandchildren are watching closely and taking in everything about us.  Our living testimony of faith can leave a profound imprint on their minds and hearts.

In God's eyes you may play a more vital role in God's greater plan than what is presently visible. God set us in families and you are a part of yours for a divine purpose.

GOD'S DESIGN FOR FAMILY

                                 God's Design for family


In many ways, families have strayed from the benevolent design of our heavenly Father.  We live in an age when courts, lawmakers, and social reformers presume to define what makes up a family.  But the reality is that the structure of a family was God's design in the first place.  After God created Adam, He declared that it was not good for man to be alone.  So, God created a companion for Adam, a helpmate--women--taken from man's side.  Children were added to Adam and Eve, husband and wife, as a blessing upon what God had already created as good.

With an agenda to destroy what the Lord has declared good, Satan has been out to destroy families ever since Adam's fall in the garden of Eden.  God's love for families, however, could not be thwarted.  God was determined to pour out His covenant blessings upon families--a covenant that would cost Him His own beloved Son.

We believe that the Lord wants to restore the foundation of strong families for His glory! His design has been for families to care for one another across the generations--to learn from one another-- to be knit together and to be sanctified together.  Along with the obvious challenges, the joys and blessings of transgenerational families "doing life" together are becoming lost, in many cases.

I would like to leave  you with this thought: " We cannot deny that our role as grandparents often stretches us beyond our personal comfort zone especially when we are tried!"