A GREAT GRANDMOTHER'S WARNING #1

 I LOVE being a great grandmother .  I am finding my way and it is so different.  The joy I am experiencing is watching my three daughtes become grandmothers.  Their interaction with their grandchildren is a thrill to my heart.  Now granted, their grandchildren, at this time, all live close to each other and that does make a difference. Meemom, Mi Mi, and Nina are more available to help  support the parents. Their spare bedroom, and basement, have become a child's paradise with a collection toys redeemed from thrift stores, garage sales and discounts on line.


 I  LOVE being a grandparent.  Each grandchild is still a delight themselves.  I miss being a grandmother.  Those were special years with  incredible memories hidden in my heart.


I  LOVE being a mom.  Each one of my girls are so unique.  Not only in their looks and personalities, but interests .They grew up all too fast, blessing us with thirteen grandchildren and  twenty two great grandchildren.


I LOVE being an older women. I have the advantage of contemplating three generations and observing the present.  To the young moms of 2018, I have this warning :

When I was a young mother, it never occurred to me that my criticism of my mother-in-law was hurtful. Even if my husband agreed,  I was still wrong. She was his mother, and I didn't care.  I felt justified. It took several years for me to be aware of my short coming. My biggest problem was that I expected his mother to be like mine. In effect I was saying to our girls  "Your daddy's mother doesn't matter.  My mother is better."  What were they to think?  They loved their daddy's mother and I wasn't encouraging a healthy relationship with her. Fortunately, by the time I became a grandmother, I had warned my daughters, "Remember your husband has a mother too. You may not relate to her as you do with me, but she is important to him and the identity of your children.    Honor her for the sake of your husband and grandchildren. The Lord will bless your marriage."